Correcting Your Wrong Ideology On Giving

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Givers Never Lack, you’ve probably heard this phrase before or maybe read it before. It’s a universal truth.

Giving is the act of putting something or someone into the possession of another for his/her use. It is allowing someone to have or take something, it is making gifts or presents. Giving is suffering the loss of something; giving is sacrificial.

With all the selfishness in us, we often try to convince ourselves why we don't need to give. We say stuff like, "I might need it someday", "what if I need it later?", "I'm going to go broke if I give this out". Hey! GIVERS NEVER LACK! No one ever became poor from giving, no one ever became broke after giving. And guess what? You won't ever need what you gave out, not now, not later.

Why Give?

While writing this article, I tried to think of reasons we should give. Do you know what I found out? There isn't, there shouldn't. If there is a reason to give, then it's no longer giving, it's an exchange. The question shouldn't be "Why Give?", but "Why not Give?" You answer it.

What to Give?

A lot of times when we are asked to give, we find ourselves drowning in this question, what do I give? Honestly, even I have found myself drowning too. My mind becomes crowded with all the stuff I own and how much I have and then I ask myself, what can I give?

You don't have to have excess before you give as society has taught us. You don't have to own two to give out one. Let me rephrase, YOU DON'T NEED TO HAVE ENOUGH TO GIVE. And you don't always have to give tangible things. Things that are loved most are things that are not seen but felt.

You can give out experiences, advice, time, love, joy, care, reasons to live, and even friendship. Don't limit what you can give to only money, it doesn't always have to be money especially when you don't have it. When next you are in a position to give, ask yourself, what do I have?

Who to Give?

That’s easy! Whoever needs what you have. Yeah, I said it, needs. If someone asks for something that they want, not need, you make the decision, choose to give or not; but don’t wait to give to someone who needs it. Give to someone who needs it even before he/she begs for it, because most times, the people who truly need it don’t always ask.

When giving, give to those you know can't give to you back. That's the whole point of Giving being sacrificial. Don't give to those who can repay you, if they can, they don't need it. Don't get this wrong, I'm not saying you shouldn't give to the rich, even they have needs. I'm saying, don't give intentionally to those who can repay you.

The idea is, give to everyone, not just to a group of people. The truth is everyone needs something, rich or poor. Give to whoever, you don't need to know a person before giving to him/her.

Growing up, society has taught us some wrong ideologies of giving like only give when you have a surplus, give things you don't want anymore, give to people only when it's convenient for you and it ought not to be. You don't need a reason to give. Rich people are not generous, generous people are. Don't ever think you'll make a mistake while giving, it never happens. So the next that you are in a position to give and you start worrying about what you're gonna lose or you feel you're making a mistake, it's all ANXIETY.

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