5 Reasons Why Anger Is Not So Bad

 When Anger is brought up, the first thought that comes into your mind is a terrible, horrible, feeling. Anger is a strong feeling you have when something has happened that you think is bad or unfair. Anger doesn’t have a good reputation as other emotions like Happiness, Joy or Love. It is mostly referred to as evil.

Culture, religion, and society at large has taught us that anger is a bad emotion because of its destructive outcomes such as violence and aggression; but that doesn’t make it all bad, does it? Love is one of the most used and appreciated emotions in the world, we have seen it cause havoc and unthinkable things to people. It doesn’t change the fact that everyone still longs for it and want to feel loved. It is the same with Anger. Negative behaviours as a result of it doesn’t make it bad, it just shows poor expression and management.

Why Is Anger Not So Bad?

Anger is above all, one of the few emotions that allows us to be active. It is poor expression that leads to destructive actions and words.

Can you try to remember a moment of your life when you felt angry because of any reason at all, maybe at a particular situation or at a person. Hold on to that thought, we’ll need it as we go on.

1. Anger tells you when you are hurt.

When you are hurt, you become sad, but we should not ignore the fact that we might also feel angry. Some of the hurt we feel has nothing to do with sadness, it’s purely anger. Now bring back that moment you remembered and access it. Were you not hurt? You are more likely to get yes as your answer if you are honest to yourself.

2. Anger makes you aware of injustice.

You can bring up a different moment of anger if you want. Try to remember a time when you felt mistreated. It could be at your workplace, at school or in your family. Maybe you were bullied, harassed or your sibling is given more respect than you are. What emotion did you feel during that moment? Sad? Yes. Angry? Yes.

3. Anger makes you stand up for yourself.

Let’s still make use of your past experience, the one you just thought of, the one you when felt mistreated. Yes, that one. So, you got angry because of the injustice towards you. You’ve been ignoring it for a while and you can’t take it any longer, so you speak up. Are you not standing up for yourself? Thanks to proper expression of anger.

4. Anger motivates you to solve problems.

Sometimes, when things begin to go terribly wrong in your life, you become frustrated, sad and don’t forget, angry. Your job isn’t so pleasing anymore, your relationships are suffering. You become sick of your problems and decide you need a change. You cannot seek for change with only sadness.

Most revolutions wouldn’t have taken place if the people were happy about where they were.

5. Anger tells you when your boundary is disrespected.

A lot of people seem to disagree with this one, especially those who disrespect people’s boundaries.

You’re sitting down in your living room doing something random when your attention is divided by a familiar person. Your brother is wearing your favourite pair of socks or someone is using your belonging without your permission. You can’t tell me you feel sad that they crossed the boundary. You got mad.

 

I chose this tone of writing so that it won’t be me telling you why anger isn’t so bad but using your past experience to confirm my claims.

Anger is an emotion and it should be treated as such, accepted, respected, embraced and accessed. Any other reaction towards it other than these will lead to destructive consequences.